Advice

YOU ASKED IT: WEEK 6

I just met my girlfriend’s older sister for the first time. It went great, except for the fact I accidentally insulted one of her deepest insecurities,shook like a naked chihuahua, stumbled over my own words and just generally made a big fool of myself. I’ve always sucked at first impressions, particularly with important people.

How do I fix this mess? How do I come off as less of a train wreck in the future?

Okay for starters, don’t worry. Everyone has days/moments like this, including your girlfriend’s sister. When you’re a trainwreck it is usually pretty clear and that’s a good thing because train’s don’t crash every time they go somewhere. You get what I’m saying?  Am sure she knows you were having an off day which is totally understandable considering it was the first time you met her! I’d be nervous too. What you can do now is talk to your girlfriend about her sister. Get all the intel. Find out what she likes, doesn’t like etc. Maybe some conversation starters and also ask her to let her sister know you were off your game. Treat the next time you meet her like it’s the first. Everyone hypes up first impressions. Like yeah they’re super important and can definitely make a relationship, but they aren’t the end of the world because you get to decide if you want a second impression. And you can work really damn hard to make that second impression bomb.

Bottom line, you’re going to be fine. Practice your firm handshakes with your friends, make sure you do your research before meeting important people, and lastly stop stressing. If your girlfriend loves you their sister loves them, you’re golden.

I’m a junior in high school. I get decent grades, and I love school and my teachers, but I’m an organizational train wreck. I’m afraid I’ve ruined my track record with all my teachers and I really need some academic recommendations for college. How can I get teachers to vouch for my academic competence when I’m always handing in work late and forgetting about tests?

I mean, I still get all A’s and B’s, but I feel like I annoy my teachers with all my problems. I’m not that good at making good impressions, especially when it comes to adults and authority figures. I’m inherently, un-apologetically myself,which would be good if only my real self was deemed charismatic and desirable. Instead, I think I come off as quirky or even ditsy. I’m smart, at least I think so, but I’m also really excitable.

How can I get the glowing college recommendations I need with so little time left to fix my reputation with my teachers?

I know you’re going to hate the sound of this, but pick teachers that require a lot of work from you in order to get a letter of recommendation. Obviously you want them to be teachers that like you a lot too, but the more work the better. I say this because aside from showing that you’re willing to work for a letter it also lets you talk for yourself. You can explain exactly what you just said here. You can tell them how you struggled to express your problems in the specific class and let them know how much you have appreciated their patience, yada yada yada. DO NOT SHY AWAY. This is your chance, amigo!!! You write what your ideal letter would say.

Another GOLDENNNNNNN opportunity would be the brag sheet you give to your guidance counselor. That letter is really important and you pretty much write it for yourself. These counselors have to write 50 plus letters a year so the more you do for them, the less generic yours will be. My brag sheet was one of the best, most honest pieces of writing I’ve ever handed to a teacher and I have zero regrets. I felt so much relief in knowing my letter was going to explain everything about my high school career that I would have been unable to share with the colleges I applied to.

So, frantic junior, speak freely and let it all out. Do work. Explain, explain, explain. Don’t let a teacher think you’re anything but a hard working kid.

 

I think I failed my AP Physics exam. Like I honestly think I got a 1. Will I still get into college?

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I honestly can’t say I know anyone that didn’t get a 1 last year. And you’ve heard otherwise then they’re lying. I mean most of them. There are some kids that may have actually gotten a 4, idk if it’s a myth or not.

To summarize, you’re fine. I’m not even entertaining this question more. AP. EXAMS. MEAN. NOTHING. #bye

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